Last time we talked about how to control sexual arousal. This time we’re going to continue on that path.
We already covered that what you do with your mind is crucially important.
Now again, most people will tell you that you should think of something unsexy, like furniture or a coffee machine. I don’t think that’s a good approach, for reason’s I’ve already covered, and there really are better way to control sexual excitement.
Instead what you want to do is to totally focus on…
You really want to pay attention to your tactile sensations – but not just the stimulation of your genital parts, but your whole body experience, from top to toe.
At first this might seem counter-intuitive.
After all, when you focus on your tactile sensations, will it not just increase your sexual excitement?
Well, the answer is yes and no. If you do it the wrong way, then it will make your more excited.
But if you do it the right way, then you’ll actually be much more calm and in control of your sexual arousal.
And that’s what you want to do. As the man, you want to be the one who is in control of your excitement, and you want to get your girl to a point where she is totally out of control – and after that you can let go and lose control yourself. But get her to that point first.
Now don’t think about it in a totally erotic or sexy way – instead, you want to be aware of what is happening. Detailed, precise awareness and attention, but not getting all worked up about it.
The hard part of this is to stay in the right frame of mind.
Because on a subconscious level you always have the urge to ejaculate, to reach orgasm. Because it simply feels so good.
And this subconscious desire to ejaculate can really get in the way of you successfully controlling your sexual excitement.
Did you ever get a massage?
A massage that wasn’t erotic or making you horny, but was a very sensual and relaxing and satisfying experience?
That’s the best way I can think of to explain this. That is the state you want to be in when you’re having sex, because it will make the whole experience both intensive but also so that you can consciously experience it and control sexual excitement.
On a physiological level this basically keeps your body in a parasympathetic state, where you have an erection (because of the increased blood flow in your genital region), but the whole “machinery” that’s involved in ejaculating is not yet activated.
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