Nobody wants to be a minute man. That’s why learning how to last longer in bed for men can be one of the most important things to improve your sex life.
There are different approaches to delay your ejaculation: short term and long term.
That means some techniques or tricks can help you to last a little longer while you’re having sex. These are short-term fixes, they can easily be applied and will buy you some extra time.
On the other hand, you have long-term methods which basically train you to last longer in general. The downside of them is of course that you need to train and practice for a while before you see results – the upside on the other hand is that it’s the one and only way to really get to the top of your love-making potential and enjoy long-lasting, intense, passionate, hot sex.
But we’re going to look at some quick fixes first:
Now slowing down is just one of the things you can do to keep your sexual arousal in check. Now the point is not to enjoy sex less – the point is to enjoy sex more. But if you ejaculate too fast, you won’t enjoy it as much. So the point of slowing down is that you want to spread the intensity out, and intensify it later on.
Sometimes your sex partner might want you to go faster and harder (and you might want to give in to that request because you feel like that too). But keep a steady slow pace so you can last longer in bed.
There are mental techniques for those who want to know how to last longer in bed. And while it’s easy to kind of push them aside and think that they don’t matter, I consider them to be some of the most important things you can do to beat premature ejaculation.
One thing you want to do is to practice to be in a relaxed state of mind when you have sex.
Wait a second, did I just say relaxed state of mind? While having sex?
Yep. Now that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enjoy sex or shouldn’t get excited about it. It simply means that you slowly work your way up to the final excitement. But you want to get into an almost dream-like state of mind when you’re having sex – you know, that feeling like when you’re somewhere between wakefulness and sleep. Because that’s when you’re whole system is still in parasympathetic mode (this is where your parasympathetic nervous system is in charge, and you have a strong erection without being near an orgasm yet).
Focus On Her
If you focus all of your attention on your sex partner, then you will actually last longer – and she will enjoy sex more. So pay attention to her breathing, the sounds that she makes, her muscles tensing up and relaxing in different parts of her body and all of these things.
There’s plenty information out there for those looking for ways how to last longer in bed for men, but I’m not sure if you’ve ever heard of the next one I’m going to talk about.
Watch Porn Without Masturbating
Many men who suffer from premature ejaculation have watched a lot of porn. The problem with porn is: it really gets into your head. It’s designed that way. It pushes all your hot buttons and gets you to maximum horniness in minimum time.
Now one thing you can do to train your mind to last longer in bed is to watch a porn movie, the one that usually excites you the most, but don’t masturbate. In fact, try to remain as calm and relaxed as possible while watching the porn movie. This can be a way to train your mind to not get carried away.
There is no one simple formula that teaches men how to last longer in bed. It’s a multifaceted approach and you’ll have to do several things in order to really get the best results. For a more systematic, step-by-step approach check out Sexual Stamina Secrets.